But I don't believe in it.
Soul mates. Bullshit. They'd be a person who gets you, fits into who you are and there are no arguments. Where the fuck is my soul mate then?
Aren't fights, disagreements, differences a part of the packaged deal?
Is there such thing as someone who is always honest with you, and yet always makes you feel amazing?
Can you even have both?
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| Storybook romance, is it possible? Or are my expectations too high? Image credit. |
Yet I see constantly around me, people falling in love or talking about how great their love is.
Is it just because they're wearing rose coloured glasses?
Are they trying to fool me?
Is there some competition I didn't get the memo on where we are supposed to try and compete with everyone else, even if it means out right lying?
Does never fighting mean that you will even be happy?
Or does it mean that there is no fire, no passion?
I don't understand love.
Frankly, it's an emotion I don't like.
It clouds my thoughts and judgement. It reaches inside of me and hurts me.
It's not comfortable, and it doesn't make me feel secure.
So why do I want it?
Why do I crave to love, and to be loved?
To have someone look at me and that I know it's "just right" and it will be in 80 years, 100 years, and another 50 lifetimes?
To have someone look at me and that I know it's "just right" and it will be in 80 years, 100 years, and another 50 lifetimes?
And so they lived happily ever after.
...Or some shit like that.
I think its the human condition to want to be loved.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, i dont necessarily believe in one true soulmate either - and i got married 6 weeks ago! I love my husband with all my heart but of course we have fights, or there are days where we just annoy each other, and i'd like to think that if i hadnt met him that there is someone else out there who is just as "right " for me as he is...
Lots of confusion over what a Soul Mate is, but that's not surprising in a world where we are Indoctrinated into The Dream from your birth, is it?
ReplyDeleteMost people seem to think a Soul Mate SHOULD fit you perfectly, no arguments and all lovey-dovey all day... most think soul mates SHOULD be this and that and everything else. Reality is far from that Dream perception.
A Soul Mate can be the one who you had a horrible relationship but that also taught you about your inner strength and Value.. and this would show how loving the Soul is to agree to go through all of that horrible experience for you to learn about Yourself. Unconditional Love.
Most people SEEK love for themselves.. to have one person who loves them till death do you part. And yet Love in Action is when we GIVE love.. no conditions, nothing hidden, nothing sought for our own gain or pleasure.
Love has to be given, and then what you gave out also rises up inside you to fill you.
All the rest is just semantics and brainwashing. Real Love has no boundaries, no conditions, no locked-in contracts, no promises, and is always greater and more powerful than what we imagine it can be.
It is the greatest tool, the greatest "weapon" against negativity.. and each person has a huge resevoir of it waiting inside to be Given Freely.
Ooops.. sorry for waffling on again
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It's a natural part of being human - to want to understand and be understood. x
ReplyDeleteWe all want to be loved. But I also think we all want something different from love.
ReplyDeleteAs you probably noticed in my anniversary post today: ``If I had a double chocolate brownie for every challenge we’ve had to face together, he’d be married to a very different person right now.'' Our relationship hasn't been easy, but then it would be pretty darn boring without those moments. xx
I just wish there were a bit more out there that showed it's ok to have long patches where you just don't care about being in a relationship. That it's not always a happy ending, but sometimes just an "ok" one.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE this comment.
ReplyDeleteI am just not too sure where I stand with love right now.
I understand the love I have for my kids. It's an unbreakable bond. The rest seems like it has a shelf life right now.
Oh how I wish someone just understood. They saw through the mask.
ReplyDeleteI think love is ever changing as is our needs from it. That in itself with one person is difficult, but with two sometimes it's just....harder than difficult.
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