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Children and maturity.
If you're lucky, you will never have to have a conversation with a teacher about your child's maturity levels.
Really, it's not a fun one to have, because what exactly can you do?
Sometimes, I feel completely overwhelmed with being a mother to Bluey.
The guilt that follows admitting this feeling is dark and empty. In honesty I am just not prepared to parent this remarkable child, and I have found that there is a great lack of support and idea's to help assist parents of gifted children.
There have been times when I have wondered if Bluey has ADHD. Mr Black has insisted on it quite a few times actually. And I know there is a constant worry that he is already showing signs of anxiety problems, as he is very sensitive emotionally.
He is often forgetful and losing his belongings.
He is a social child, very outgoing, but also easily influenced.
"Easily Distracted" has been mentioned to me far too many times by teachers that I finish the phrase off for them before they can get halfway through the first word. How the hell am I supposed to change if he is distracted or engaged from at home?
My answer to his boredom at school has been to let the teacher know he has expressed boredom, and then at home looked at way's I can extend his homework he is already getting.
Last year as the school year wrapped up I was pulled into a meeting with the Principal and the Assistant Principal for Stage 1 and told that Bluey would be in a composite class, that it was something they felt with his situation, and ability to cope in many social situations he would benefit from greatly from having some harder work more easily available to him, as well as peers who are older and would pull him up maturity wise.
Only problem is this doesn't seem to be working. He is still complaining frequently that he is bored. His teacher is already having him work with the older kids, but when you're five and in year one in a composite class, these children are up to three years older than him!
I am struggling to be his mum.
I don't understand why he does some of the stuff he does. Things he wouldn't even attempt here at home, and because I don't understand this, I don't understand how to help him, how to cater for him.
I know that I am not the only person who has a gifted child, or who may have some experience with this. Please if you have any advice, or directions you can point me in, throw them at me.
I've had a look around, but I am not finding anything to help with our situation, and the teachers have not been much help other than "encourage your child with positive reinforcement."
Something we have been doing from day one as I believe in praise for the positive and ignore the negative.
I've pointed out that the issue may be with the fact because of his learning capabilities being up here, that it is quickly expected that the rest of him is up there too when in fact he is a five year old acting like a five year old.
I am tired of my child complaining he is bored, and his teachers complaining about his behaviour.
I'm tired of feeling like I am a failure mum.