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Really.
What the fuck is love?
I look around and see people all mushy and gushy, this person who is holding their hand knows all their darkest secrets, some even declare they know them better than they know themselves. It's an unspoken bond, a best friend. It's undying respect.
I won't lie, I ache for that connection. That connection I don't have.
I've never asked too much of love.
Oh I've wanted a lot. The fairy tales. No. Something better than that.
But I've only ever asked that I have someone to trust and who trusts me implicitly. Someone who will always be honest with me, who I can talk to about everything and nothing and know that they won't be judging me.
Love is such a defining thing for people these days.
Why is it?
Why do people spend their whole lives seeking it?
Are we really nothing without the companionship of a life partner?
The older I get the more I don't believe in love.
Not the kind I had hoped for anyway.
I never wanted it right out of the movies, but I did want that person who just got you deep down, even if the surface stuff was messy.
Maybe I set my hopes too high?
Maybe love is one of those things you never stop looking for. Craving.
I can't help but wonder if it's real or something we're conditioned to believe in, to search for from birth.
It sounds like you do have it :)
ReplyDeleteWhatever it is that may be.
I think love is one of the hardest words to define, but whatever it is, I'm glad I have it in my life.
x
I wrote a comment earlier but we drove into the mountains and I lost my internet connection - doh! It went something like this...
ReplyDeleteI think love is more a head thing than a heart thing. Love is a decision you make, not just once but everyday. Whether that be loving yourself or loving another.
Love isn't all fluffy & mushy, like in the movies. Thats infatuation, or lust, not real, lasting, honest, intimate love. Love takes work, but it is worth it.
I wrote a comment earlier but we drove into the mountains and I lost my internet connection - doh! It went something like this...
ReplyDeleteI think love is more a head thing than a heart thing. Love is a decision you make, not just once but everyday. Whether that be loving yourself or loving another.
Love isn't all fluffy & mushy, like in the movies. Thats infatuation, or lust, not real, lasting, honest, intimate love. Love takes work, but it is worth it.
I believe in it and I think we seek it because it completes us. Sorry, but I do. x
ReplyDeleteDon't be sorry. I knew you did, and I was hoping you would comment because I do want to hear opinions on this.
ReplyDeleteI'm with Lisa and think love is a head thing. It's conscious decisions to love and let be loved. It's shades of grey and messy and has little to do with romance or Hollywood. I like to think it's necessary but maybe it's not for everyone?
ReplyDeleteI'm with Lisa and think love is a head thing. It's conscious decisions to love and let be loved. It's shades of grey and messy and has little to do with romance or Hollywood. I like to think it's necessary but maybe it's not for everyone?
ReplyDeleteWow. I do believe in love - I don't think we're conditioned that way, I think it's a basic animal instinct. But I do think we're conditioned by Hollywood to expect too much - and by that I don't mean we should aim for less, just that we should seek real connections and honesty rather than big romantic gestures.
ReplyDeleteI agree that Hollywood can stylize love, but I also think their writers need to get inspiration from somewhere.
ReplyDeletebig romantic gestures can only get you so far, I too agree that real connections are more valuable.