Many times I catch myself and think "You know this. You do this. Why aren't you writing about this? Why aren't you writing about how you deal with children who don't like to sleep, kids refusing meals, or working around a food allergy, how to be a present mother whilst juggling other committments?"
Because I don't feel justified to.
Yes, I have expertise in dealing with young children (yes outside of my own, but does that really matter?) but I don't really think that's enough.
|Not an expert but I think I have this one down pat!|
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More than once. And knowing that the blog post written was well intended advice for those seeking some, or just simply documenting what they do. That it wasn't an attack in the slightest.
I still felt like I wasn't enough. My own issues, let me show you them.
So let me explain why my eyes glaze over when people talk about parenting seminars, and books and the like.
Because I know.
I not only know all the textbook crap, but I know, more importantly, what kind of parent my children need. They need me to be me, to make mistakes and then show them how to fix them. To be imperfect Yeah, I'm working on accepting that one, and ok with it because they're not perfect either.
They need me to not have a clue sometimes, so that I will remember to be open minded, and ask them what they want to teach them to make decisions for themselves about their life.
They need me to be able to let go and let them work things out for themselves, or to trust them to do something that really scares the shit out of me, but that they are ready for, even if I don't want to admit it.
Thing is, it doesn't matter what you read or how much you read you're never going to have all the answers to this parenting gig. I enjoy having that knowledge I do to fall back on, but most of my parenting I'm making up as I go along.
Just like you.
And that's why I don't feel like any kind of expert.
What about you, do you have any expertise in child behaviour or development?
Has a blog or post ever made you question the kind of parent you are?